Moms feel guilty about daycare

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This reference is used to annotate "I would never send my kids to school" (2017) by Piotr Wozniak

Working moms often feel guilty about sending kids to daycare. They instinctively know they are hurting the kid. This is why when science brings any good news about the impact of daycare, moms around the world celebrate. This contributes to a new culture in which daycare is gradually shifted from the status of necessary evil to the status of a good thing.

Moms I know will tell you they often feel guilty about the same damn thing: What they give to their careers, they might be taking away from their children. [...] Research tells us that our working mom status may actually be helpful to our children in the long run [...] High quality child care appears to provide a small boost to academic performance [...] Kids who are regularly exposed to large groups of children before the age of 2 1/2, get sick significantly less in their elementary school years [...] I guess all those sick days weren’t wasted! [...] girls who grew up with a working mother actually surpassed the career achievements of those who did not [...] I hope these stats do something to put the minds of working moms at ease

The above good-hearted article sounds happy, however, it perpetuates dangerous myths. We should remember that:

  • measures of academic performance are far better in capturing conformity than capturing brain power
  • infections contracted in daycare are very dangerous (see Daycare infections)
  • cross-generational correlations come from both nature and nurture, and we should celebrate as they seem to be showing lots of progress

Science has very little comfort against the stark reality: sending kids to daycare is harmful. See: Harm of daycare

Title: 3 Science-Backed Reasons Why Working Moms Can Let Go of the Guilt Now

Author: Eden Strong

Link: https://www.babble.com/parenting/studies-why-working-mom-guilt-needs-to-end/